經一朋友介紹，看過突破機構的其一網址，內裡有一環節「師傳過招」讓人提出性問題，再由一有宗教背景的「專業人士」解答。
天呀！內裡的答案．．．我只能用慘不忍睹來形容！再多看幾個問題及解答，我簡直不能置信！
我從不鼓吹年青人隨便發生性行為，但要去到鼓勵年青人，或是基督徒去這樣壓抑性慾，這就是現今的所謂性教育嗎？不惜醜化性行為、不惜扭曲基本性知識，不惜誇大說性慾＝淫念＝罪．．．為的只是叫人不要做！不要想！不要試！這就是現代教導年青人應有的態度？
當中有一篇叫「拒絕性」，一對基督徒情侶不停發生性行為、不停自責，極度困擾，甚至曾想分手來避免大家再「錯」下去。他們雖不斷禱告求神賜給他們力量，求神讓他們不要再「錯」下去，亦不得要領，甚至最後令他們對自己的信仰動搖，令他們更陷入深淵裡。他們的矛盾、他們的痛苦，真的令人聞者心酸。
然而，解答者不單沒有實際解決他們的問題，還反覆灌輸一種性＝罪＝毒癮的意念，究竟他居心何在？難道他看不見發問者的問題？難道他感受不到發問者的痛苦？難道他看不出發問者已經自責到就黎要自殺死了，所以還要進一步加重他的自責？
若我是發問者，相信看完他的解答，相信只會增加我的困擾：我禱告不夠虔誠嗎？我真的犯下滔天大罪了嗎？．．．若我是發問者，我自殺去了！
宗教是宣揚愛的，是讓人心靈平靜的。到底，是信仰要緊，還是人道要緊？當要堅守自己信仰的規條時，害得自己痛苦萬分，陷入萬劫不覆之地，這種堅守又為了什麼？上帝萬能，是萬物的創造者。人、罪、性慾．．．等通通是祂所做的。人在性愛中有歡愉亦是祂造的。試問，性慾、性愛中的歡愉又何罪之有？這不是吊詭是什麼？
雖然我尊重基督教婚前不能有性行為，但若我是牧師，眼見這對小情侶因為信仰與性如此困擾痛苦，基於人道立場、基於愛、基於對生理上需求的理解、基於對人性的尊重、基於憐憫之心，我會不忍的對他說：「放自己一條生路，離開教會吧！」
要是教會的牧師都如此做，
教會應該全都滅亡了。
it’s chi q sin!
agree, they are chi sin … stupid!
you all might misunderstd the teaching of Christian upon sex… It’s ok, GOD will bless.
This is not chi sin. Let me tell you: if sex with strangers is not inhibited, the society will be in chaos. USA is an example, Japan is an example.
I have no right to stop you to have sex with strangers, but I am going to WARN YOU:
“SEX WITH STRANGERS” disobeys 道德 and 伦理. Make crime on your own, don’t fuck other people with your CRAP idea.
//會唔會有基督徒頂唔順要為扑野而結婚 //
我覺得這是出路之一。
//“SEX WITH STRANGERS” disobeys 道德 and 伦理//
這視乎個人對Stranger的定義。
另外，對於帶一個智障人士去嫖妓，解決他的生理需要，防止他意外地去性侵犯其他女性，你又是否同樣覺得是disobeys 道德 and 伦理？
I am a teenager myself and have gone through similar situations described above. I guess I can give a fair opinion on this topic but I also want to clarify something according to my knowledge.
1) You said that 宗教是宣揚愛的，是讓人心靈平靜的。
Is this your pure opinion or you did research about it? Have you spend the time and effort to understand a religious before you make such a comment? Well, with my understanding, the purpose of Christianity is about the salvation of Christ, NOT to make you calm or anything. It is about Jesus, the son of God who died for us on the cross, and if you accept Christ and confess your sin, then you are the children of God and have eternal life.
2)到底，是信仰要緊，還是人道要緊？
To the believer, if he/she claims that he/she believes in God, then God should be at the first place in his/her life at all time. If he/she doesn’t put God and His word at the first place, what makes God GOD? It is not true that people can only tell a Christian is a Christian when he/she goes to church on Sunday morning to worship, but throughout their daily life, he/she should make a different and be a good witness to others to show that they follow the word of Christ. If God is really the creator of the world and have the power to control everything, then that means His word is final. We can’t use our value in today’s society to examine whether God’s word is correct or not. God’s word = bible have stood solidly throughout centuries, there’s no space left to challenge the words.
3. Sex is for married couple and rejecting sex before marry is ethical. I understand that it is really hard for the teenagers nowadays to accept the idea of avoiding pre-marriage sex as there’s great media coverage about sex. Internet, TV, movie, magazine…It is obvious that the value in the society has changed greatly. How can we judge something to be 人道? Our society’s value changed years after years, but the wordings in the Bible never change. If God is really God, then His word, Bible, is right in all dimension of time and should be the highest value in the society. To the true believer, it should be clear that the word of God is the correct value. But of course, for those non-believers, they won’t care much about the bible since they don’t even know who is God or whether there’s God. Even if they know there’s God, they won’t accept this as a fact because they feel that belief is restricting their freedom of having fun and enjoying life in whatever way they want. Sometime, they choose to live sinfully. But in fact, being a Christian gain greatly freedom, a freedom from sin. Because it said in the bible that when people confess to God about their sin, then they are forgiven.
4.當要堅守自己信仰的規條時，害得自己痛苦萬分，陷入萬劫不覆之地，這種堅守又為了什麼？上帝萬能，是萬物的創造者。人、罪、性慾．．．等通通是祂所做的
If you do spend time to read the bible or have a deeper investigation, I am sure you won’t make such a comment. If a believer decides to follow part of the religious but not the whole, in fact, that believer is making his/her God and doesn’t put God in the first place. They should ask themselves, who is God? Why do they believe in God? Mature believer should be able to answer such questions. Of my understanding, God is the creator of the world. Human knows what sin is as told by God, but are given the freedom to choose. There’s a plan throughout the bible, a plan of salvation. If you read the bible, you would know the origin of sin and the freedom God gives us. The existence of sin doesn’t mean you have to commit it. You have the choice to pick what’s right and what’s wrong. I found it funny how some people might say that if God is in control, then every step of our life is planned, and God planned us to commit sin. We are not puppets, it is God who loves us so much that give us the freedom, else we are just robots that follow instruction and perform tasks.
5. I am really disturbed by the word, “誇大”, in the sentence, “誇大說性慾＝淫念＝罪”. Who set the limit of over exaggerate? People’s belief is a truth to them. If God is God, then His word is eternal. You are just using the current’s social value to judge truth.
6. 信仰與性如此困擾痛苦，基於人道立場、基於愛、基於對生理上需求的理解、基於對人性的尊重、基於憐憫之心…
True believer would understand that they should follow God’s word. They need to have the faith and hope in Christ to live out their life. The bible said really clearly about what attitude the Christian should have toward sex. It is undeniable that there are lots of temptations among the teenagers, and the society is trying to reinforce the idea of having sex is normal, but true believer will stay firm and follow God’s word. I have no right to judge whether the young couple mentioned above are mature enough, but I think that they don’t have enough faith. If they have the confidence and faith, with God, nothing is impossible.
As a teenager, i don’t think that SEX is a must-have in our life. There are many things we can concentrate on and can use our time wisely to establish a bright future. The power of media is too powerful, but we must keep our eyes clean and clear and determine what’s best for us. Plus ,nobody said that not having sex is not-normal.
Hope that my opinion can shrew some light on this discussion.
Thanks.
對不起，因事忙，久久沒有login, 這樣遲才把你的留言approve，真不好意思。
待覆。